I was starting to doubt that it could get better… my Tinder experiences, although very few, had not been very successful! I was left feeling disappointed, in disbelief and most importantly… desperate!
I think I may have mentioned before that I have a bit of an obsessive personality, and I don’t give up on things and people that I love or feel strongly about easily. It is for this reason, that I kept going. After all, like my sister has often said, “you’re not going to find someone by staying at home, sitting on your sofa!”
So, on the Tindering went! I matched with a Latino guy, a marine! Now, I had previous experience of a marine, as you know, which didn’t go well, but he seemed nice. He made me laugh and was nice to chat to. While on a night out, he convinced my friend and I to join his friends and him at a nightclub in town. When we got there, there was some event on which the bouncer wanted us to pay a ridiculous amount of money to get in to dance to some shit music that we wouldn’t know! (Turns out they played Mysterious Girl for about 20 seconds that night! Money well spent! HaHa!)
I text Alex (Tinder guy), and told him we weren’t coming in. He came out the club and paid for us to get in! I thought that was kinda nice! Unfortunately, when i met him. I just wasn’t feeling it! OH NO! More disappointment!
It just so happened, that at the time of meeting him, I had another Tinder match… Joe. He lived in another town not too far away and so there was less chance of meeting up with him. But his chat!!!! OMG! He could sext! In hindsight, I realise that this is NOT what I’m looking for, but it was fun! Haha! Anyway, more on Joe later…
He distracted me from Alex and so I didn’t really get to chat to him… so I agreed to meet him later that week for a drink… So while, having that drink we start talking about the marines and where he has been before. I mention a marine that I met… and OMG! He has heard the story about a girl that went to this guys hotel room! CRINGE!!!!!!!!!!! Apparently, I slept with him, which I obviously know is NOT true! Luckily, Alex wasn’t as much of a dick and he was totally cool! Anyway, end of the night came and as I dropped him off to meet his friends, he leans over to give me a hug… and goes in for the kiss!!!!! I managed to avoid said kiss and shoo him out of the car without too much effort!
Alex wasn’t that bad, I think I could’ve grown to like him… Am I being too picky? Too judgmental? Should I just be settling? Sometimes I think I’m asking for too much and then other days, I’m like, NO WAY! I’m awesome! Also, he wasn’t here for long, so there wasn’t much point!
Skip a week, and I realise, I couldn’t grow to like him. I invited him to drinks with a bunch of my friends before I went on holiday… he arrived and said ‘hi’ to the two of us sitting at the bar, then he went and sat on his own! He ordered food, so I figured, ok, maybe he’s gonna eat then come join us…. NOPE! Sat with his mate all night and then just left… ok, fair enough! But then HE sends ME a text saying, ‘Guess you’re too busy to even chat to me!” WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK???? I am realising, after each encounter with men that they are harder and harder to understand! I just don’t get them!!
Anyway… Joe was still messaging me and keeping me entertained! LOL!